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About material things

Once, at a meeting, they compared the pursuing of any materialistic goal (not meaning hedonistic lifestyles, but any goal that is not merely spiritual) with painting the walls of the Titanic. In which sense?

The world where we happen to live in this short period of time is like that ship, in a very close future it will go dramatically to the bottom (carrying along a conspicuous number of people), with a difference: we are aware of the nature of its destiny.

 

Even more, in a moment like this, when it is clear by now that the Great Tribulation is about, it is obvious how any investment of time, money, energies, or whatever, is totally useless: a real waste and, moreover, a big risk.

 

The problem is the world and its spirit, trying every day, every moment, to influence our thoughts without having we realize it. We receive, growing up, by usual learning and individual and psychological forming processes, several belief systems. In this system of things inbued with the spirit of the world, many of these beliefs are faulty or misleading. It is normal to perceive stability and safety in institutions appearing mastodontic, immortal, solid, in our eyes. Example: work. Who can deny to feel a sense of stability, safety, while imagining to work, let's say, in a bank? It is an automatic reaction. And unfortunate, I add. Again: who can deny to consider superior instruction like something that can actually make the difference in life? Maybe we would not express it this way, but if we think it through we see how mental images we have, their emotional content, is just this.

 

Do we intimately know Jehovah? Do we believe in Him? I mean, do we have complete trust that what He says to us is true?

This universe, all its content, all of immense and of human… of course it is important, but when it comes to power and complexity, it is nothing special by God's point of view. It is His creation. It is completely subjected to His thoughts. We do not have a clear idea of how much inferior we are to Him by this point of view.

Isaiah 40:15-17 – Look! The nations are as a drop from a bucket; and as the film of dust on the scales they have been accounted. Look! He lifts the islands themselves as mere fine [dust]. Even Leb´a·non is not sufficient for keeping a fire burning, and its wild animals are not sufficient for a burnt offering. All the nations are as something nonexistent in front of him; as nothing and an unreality they have been accounted to him.

If this does not reflect our our way of seeing things, we have to strive in order to work on it. Do we consider material thing as an unreality? Which importance, which power may anything (governments, weapons, richness, prestige) existing in this world have, compared to God?

 

Of course, as a generic statement, it is obvious; who could ever object to such an observation? But we are interested in the practice.

Does our life style match this awareness? Are we making of Jehovah our refuge? “We cling to Jehovah when we heed his Word, which often runs contrary to human wisdom ”? I keep on quoting from The Watchtower: “For instance, people influenced by human wisdom may say: ‘You have only one life; make the most of it.’ ‘Pursue a good career.’ ‘Make a lot of money.’ ‘Buy this, buy that.’ ‘Travel; enjoy the world.'

Now, as touched on before, none of us would dream to live this way. But our automatic thinking, the instinctive one, is it free from the influence of these patterns? To make a career, to earn some money, to buy things, to travel, all of this is not wrong in itself. God created us to feel satisfied in our daily doings: the desire to perform a job that is satisfying and which matches our aptitudes, it is just natural. Money is necessary, as many material goods as well (without argumenting on how much necessary they actually are, do you think you can live today without mobile phones and private transportation?). To travel, then, it is so nice.

 

But remember where we are! And in what moment we are living! It's not the time to think about such things, especially now when this natural inclinations can distract us right before the Lord arrives, like nodding off before the dawn.

 

Moreover:

1 Corinthians 7:31 – “and those making use of the world as those not using it to the full; for the scene of this world is changing.”

It seems clear that the message here is not just “do not make use of the world (as the ones from the nations)”. We could flip the sentence: those who are forced to make use of the world, do it as little as possible!

The difference is huge. This comes up bearing in mind the other scriptures that make us understand we must put the Kingdom first, and “having sustenance and covering, we shall be content with these things.”

With this in mind, I quote once again the same article of The Watchtower: “Does your attitude toward “the world” and “the things in the world” reflect your complete trust in God? Are spiritual riches and privileges of Kingdom service more desirable and important to you than the things the world offers? Do you strive to maintain a ‘simple eye’?

So, do we consider all the things a loss, some refuses, as the scripture says? Or maybe we cosider them somehow important? Scriptures are clear: these things are not important, on the contrary, they are harmful to us. Thus we have to work in order to consider them for what they are.

 

And then there is another aspect:

1 Samuel12:20-22 – “Only do not turn aside from following Jehovah, and YOU must serve Jehovah with all YOUR heart. And YOU must not turn aside to follow the unrealities that are of no benefit and that do not deliver, because they are unrealities. For Jehovah will not desert his people for the sake of his great name, because Jehovah has taken it upon himself to make YOU his people.”

Now I could seem anachronistic to you, but how much highly do you think about the “word of honour”? Once it equated the sign of a contract. To a man of honour, that word is the most binding thing exists, a promise, an oath to respect, a vote. But this is just a vague reflection of what it has to mean to Jehovah, his own word, his own name. This is the most real thing it may exist in absolute meaning; not just in relation to our physical universe. Is an unreachable, impassable limit. His power could stop all we know in a time instant not even measurable…

 

…and He took charge of it…

…for the sake of His great name…

 

How can we doubt of Him, after having Him telling us a thing like this?! How can we feel anxiety about material, fleshy, things, when it is Him granting them to us?! How could we search for any kind and degree of refuge somewhere else?!

Doing it would be a serious offence towards Him! It would be just like saying that God cannot or does not want to keep His word!

 

Are we kidding??

 


 

Thinking about these things, now the word of Philippians 4:6,7 have gained better vigour: “Do not be anxious over anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication along with thanksgiving let YOUR petitions be made known to God; and the peace of God that excels all thought will guard YOUR hearts and YOUR mental powers by means of Christ Jesus.

Role playing as misconduct or psycopathology

Everybody plays a role, it's known.

When we go to work, or if we we have a duty involving authority or responsibility at a certain degree… then, virtually always.

Now we can't define every degree of pretense the individual adopts in various circumstances, nor this is the moment (I really do not have time) to mark which are the roles that are good to play, or to which we are called to stick to for our own good and happiness, nor to reason about how role-playing in a certain extent is even healthy for the individual.

Anyway, we have to spend several words about a danger I have seen becoming clear and present in some cases.

We assume that the roles we play, generally, are just "interfaces" or "modulations" or a series of rules in which express our personality, our functions and activities. On the other hand, it often happens that the individual inverts perception of what he/she internally is with what he/she is on the surface; that is he exchanges or confuses the substance with the interface, his real persona with the role he's playing, the face with the mask (to use a term already used, see post about communication, we could also say he's confounding the internal meaning of himself with the words used to express it). And this, even if it could seem an obvious and thin distinction since Pirandello, it makes a terrible difference.

At this point we could draw in the concept of honor. Don't you dare to mistake it with omerta. Strictly, a man of honor (or a woman, of course) is firstly faithful to himself. There's no honor without coherence. There's no loyalty. (One day we will talk thoroughly about this too).

Now: the individual who does not have clear in mind the difference between "objective self" and the roles he plays, either he is in a state of mental and psychological confusion, or he's one of the cases that I put under "stealth psycopaths", that are folks mentally ill – literally – but appearing perfectly normal in daily life and even to acquaintances and close relatives. And I assure you they are far, far more than you think.

How can this individual stick to moral values? His values change according to circumstances. How can he have certainties? He will only have illusions, built above cloudy concepts, because he can not admit the existance of one absolute truth, a concept needed for the existance of all relative truths you want (yes, I have to update the post about relativism tautology: "all is relative" = self-confessed nonsense).

How can a person like that behave according to his conscience? It's clear that a conscience can't work properly in a mind like that. It does not have a real point of reference, or landmark. Or, worse, he think he has it, but not barely in himself, nor from God, though in the kind of persona he's playing at that very moment, and this is an aberration! It makes come to my mind the pseudo-sentient dolls à-la Philip Dick (or Ghost in the Shell), you are warned…

 

Let's pay attention to these cases; they're loose cannons in social/affective relationships.

Freedom and fear

So much has been said about being free from anxieties, fears. Looking at it by a merely physiological point of view, anxiety states (i.e. fear, panic, nervous tension… you figured it out, aren’t you?), are just noxious. Even just chemically. And that alone, it would be enough to remark the importance, the need of getting rid of fear.

But we have the best guidance, as we know, in the Bible. So these are better reasons:

1) 1 John 4:18 – There is no fear in love, but perfect love throws fear outside, because fear exercises a restraint. Indeed, he that is under fear has not been made perfect in love.

By the word “restraint” there is a footnote: checking; correction; punishment. Lit., lopping off. The application of this text, checking the context, is about "freeness of speech in the day of judgment". Anyway, the use of the term restraint, together with the idea of checking, correction, punishment, lopping off, recalls to my mind an image: the straitjacket. I do not alter the meaning of the text if I say that fear, in general, paralyzes us. This is a fact humanly, generally aknowledged. Fear is like a straitjacket: it blocks us, curbs us, it is a handicap. Think about relationships with other people, or in the congregation. I'm not talking about things against habits or propriety standards, or even moral rules. I'm talking about that things, big or small, that do happen at a communication level. It can't be good for us to wear a mental straitjacket, something exercising a restraint on us, castigating ourselves, our nature, our personality. But how can we solve this? To be perfect in love..! Ah, how much should we say about this… I will just say this: if love is founded on principles (agàpe) of pure altruism, dedicated to giving, to the sake of the neighbor, how could we feel fear at the same time? All of our deeds and words will be dedicated to good, as much as it depends on us, therefore there's really nothing to fear, consequences or responsibility for us.

Then the question shifts: we don't just have to try not to feel fear, or to overcome it, but also and mostly we have to refine our ego, making our thoughts desires deeds feelings words be good. Good in a wider sense; morally good.

As Colossians 3:9-10 says: Strip off the old personality with its practices, and clothe yourselves with the new [personality], which through accurate knowledge is being made new according to the image of the One who created it. Than is a continuos process, a renewing oneself, getting each time closer to the human ideal, perfection: being made in God's image (shadow). 

But back to fear:

2) Hebrews 13:5-6 – …For he has said: “I will by no means leave you nor by any means forsake you.” So that we may be of good courage and say: “Jehovah is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?

Another aspect of the fruit of the spirit that annihilates fear is faith. A grain of faith can move mountains, let's always remember it. So if we truly have faith, we'll say to our fears: "Go and throw yourself into the sea!" because we know for sure that Jehovah will help us. This is so useful in the small, daily challenges. It doesn't only apply to persecution by men, that even if they could kill us, would we have lost everything? Everything we have comes from God, and as he gave it us once, he can give twice (remember Job). Refine our faith too, then. Strive to behave as Hannah: after throwing her anguish in front of God and receiving the Eli's blessing "the woman proceeded to go on her way and to eat, and her face became self-concerned no more." To rely on Jehovah means not only open him our heart about our worries, but also "throw our burden" upon him. If after doing so we keep on feeling that burden, there must be something wrong!

In the end:

3) Luke 12:25 – Who of you by being anxious can add a cubit to his life span?

The truth is that there's no use being worried. It doesn't definitely change the reality, and it doesn't make us more qualified facing difficulties. It just makes us feel bad. Considering this point too will help us to be freed from our fears a little more.

To conclude, strive to increasingly follow the ways of love and to increase our faith in Jehovah, perceiving him for what he is: a real person, a father who cares about us and who has the power and the will to help us. Then our steps will become really free and light.